Pansexuals Vs. Asexuals: A Response

This is a response to the video linked below, which compares pansexuality with asexuality. This is why I think the video portrays both of these sexualities in a negative light.

I’m fine with oversimplification, but this flat out makes both sides look bad.
Pansexuality doesn’t mean that the person wants a lot of sex, it just means the person can theoretically be attracted to anyone of any gender (or lack of gender). So that in itself means pansexuals and asexuals can’t be directly compared.
Asexuality is concerned only with sex itself; not with the gender of the person the asexual may want to date.

And yes, asexuals can date. Asexuality is a spectrum. On one end of the spectrum is demisexuality. Demisexuals can experience a desire for sex, and can enjoy sex, with the right person. It’s just that their feelings of emotional and sexual intimacy are more intertwined than the average person. Demisexuals are unlikely to experience sexual desire towards a person they don’t know; for example in porn or seeing a celebrity on TV (unless, perhaps, they have developed a ‘connection’ with the celebrity by reading about them or watching interviews, etc). They are also unlikely to feel sexual attraction towards a person they have met in real life, but don’t know anything about. (However demisexuality is, in itself, a spectrum, but I won’t go into that here.)

On the other end of the asexuality spectrum is the aromantic asexual. They don’t experience either emotional or physical feelings of attraction towards others. But, being a spectrum, most asexuals will fall somewhere in between.

I don’t claim to be an expert on this, and my knowledge is based only on what I have read about or watched on YouTube. Please feel free correct me in the comments if you think I’ve made a mistake. 🙂

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