Pansexuals Vs. Asexuals: A Response

This is a response to the video linked below, which compares pansexuality with asexuality. This is why I think the video portrays both of these sexualities in a negative light.

I’m fine with oversimplification, but this flat out makes both sides look bad.
Pansexuality doesn’t mean that the person wants a lot of sex, it just means the person can theoretically be attracted to anyone of any gender (or lack of gender). So that in itself means pansexuals and asexuals can’t be directly compared.
Asexuality is concerned only with sex itself; not with the gender of the person the asexual may want to date.

And yes, asexuals can date. Asexuality is a spectrum. On one end of the spectrum is demisexuality. Demisexuals can experience a desire for sex, and can enjoy sex, with the right person. It’s just that their feelings of emotional and sexual intimacy are more intertwined than the average person. Demisexuals are unlikely to experience sexual desire towards a person they don’t know; for example in porn or seeing a celebrity on TV (unless, perhaps, they have developed a ‘connection’ with the celebrity by reading about them or watching interviews, etc). They are also unlikely to feel sexual attraction towards a person they have met in real life, but don’t know anything about. (However demisexuality is, in itself, a spectrum, but I won’t go into that here.)

On the other end of the asexuality spectrum is the aromantic asexual. They don’t experience either emotional or physical feelings of attraction towards others. But, being a spectrum, most asexuals will fall somewhere in between.

I don’t claim to be an expert on this, and my knowledge is based only on what I have read about or watched on YouTube. Please feel free correct me in the comments if you think I’ve made a mistake. 🙂


Ice Bucket Challenge (and more)

OK, so a few days ago I received, inevitably, my #IceBucketChallenge nomination. The culprit was my girlfriend, not knowing if this craze had yet made the journey across the pond. Thankfully it had, and therefore it didn’t come as a complete shock to me.

My girlfriend successfully completed her challenge in her warm Pennsylvanian garden (or ‘back yard’, I should say). I, on the other hand, was forced to complete mine on my blustery Welsh drive, in temperatures around 12°C. Oh well, at least it wasn’t winter!

Getting all the ice cubes from the freezer, I dropped them into a bucket of cold water. I sat on the drive, propped my phone up on the food waste bin and got it over with as quickly as possible, nominating my two best friends.

This challenge led me to wonder if the creation of a challenge for visual snow could ever catch on. Imagine that sort of awareness and money becoming available to VS research. VS sufferers are currently trying to reach a goal of $50,000 for the next phase of research to be conducted by Dr Goadsby and Dr Schankin.

Their most recent publication suggested that VS is caused by hypermetabolic activity in a part of the brain called the lingual gyrus. It was a milestone for VS sufferers; but only a momentary relief to the constant irritation this condition inflicts on its victims. After all, there is still no treatment.

I have tried coming up with some random challenge ideas to raise money for VS, but have struggled to build enthusiasm for any of them, even from within the visual snow community.

So this weekend I plan to just throw myself in at the deep end (mostly figuratively, but somewhat literally) and make another video, not dissimilar to the Ice Bucket Challenge, but this will be for Visual Snow. And, VSers, this will be shared beyond the visual snow Facebook group. Stay tuned. 😀

To donate to visual snow research, visit

Video: Visual Snow for Beginners

Visual Snow for Beginners:

For anyone who read my post on this topic, this video may help to summarise that information a little better.

For those that haven’t heard of this condition, I would be grateful if you could spend a few minutes of your time to familiarise yourself with it. The more people that know about it, the better. It’s about time that people could discuss their symptoms with their doctor, without receiving a look of bewilderment. Thank you.